Too Much Praise?

6 thoughts on “Too Much Praise?”

  1. Wow Ang. Your posts have a way of being so touching and honest. I really appreciate you putting this out there. I had never given the “Good Job!” thing much thought or even realized that it could be thought of as a negative thing. How can giving positive reinforcement possibly be a negative? I am not so sure about that. Your father was hard on you in many ways but he also reaped the rewards of years of teaching. it is a shame he couldn't be more forthcoming with his pride for you and his feelings. I am guessing a cultural and perhaps childhood thing that he picked up along the way.

    I totally think you are spot on with the dialoguing. I sometimes struggle to do this with the kids. The more worn down I get, the less I think of these things. You do a great job of balancing discipline, loving words, educating & exposing P. to the world & i think she will come out balanced as a result. You truly are supermom to me!

    I am finding that I need to remind myself to engage them and ask questions. I find myself being more reactive rather than preparing for situations ahead of time. I get too frustrated and forget to stop & think…how can I go into this situation and keep them engaged and use something interesting to keep them out of trouble. The Yosemite example is great.

    I really am so proud of myself and the kids when I think of setting the stage for what is to come and helping them to understand how to handle situations. Sometimes it is easy to forget that they have yet to learn so many things!

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  2. Wow Ang. Your posts have a way of being so touching and honest. I really appreciate you putting this out there. I had never given the “Good Job!” thing much thought or even realized that it could be thought of as a negative thing. How can giving positive reinforcement possibly be a negative? I am not so sure about that. Your father was hard on you in many ways but he also reaped the rewards of years of teaching. it is a shame he couldn't be more forthcoming with his pride for you and his feelings. I am guessing a cultural and perhaps childhood thing that he picked up along the way.

    I totally think you are spot on with the dialoguing. I sometimes struggle to do this with the kids. The more worn down I get, the less I think of these things. You do a great job of balancing discipline, loving words, educating & exposing P. to the world & i think she will come out balanced as a result. You truly are supermom to me!

    I am finding that I need to remind myself to engage them and ask questions. I find myself being more reactive rather than preparing for situations ahead of time. I get too frustrated and forget to stop & think…how can I go into this situation and keep them engaged and use something interesting to keep them out of trouble. The Yosemite example is great.

    I really am so proud of myself and the kids when I think of setting the stage for what is to come and helping them to understand how to handle situations. Sometimes it is easy to forget that they have yet to learn so many things!

    Like

  3. Wow Ang. Your posts have a way of being so touching and honest. I really appreciate you putting this out there. I had never given the “Good Job!” thing much thought or even realized that it could be thought of as a negative thing. How can giving positive reinforcement possibly be a negative? I am not so sure about that. Your father was hard on you in many ways but he also reaped the rewards of years of teaching. it is a shame he couldn't be more forthcoming with his pride for you and his feelings. I am guessing a cultural and perhaps childhood thing that he picked up along the way.

    I totally think you are spot on with the dialoguing. I sometimes struggle to do this with the kids. The more worn down I get, the less I think of these things. You do a great job of balancing discipline, loving words, educating & exposing P. to the world & i think she will come out balanced as a result. You truly are supermom to me!

    I am finding that I need to remind myself to engage them and ask questions. I find myself being more reactive rather than preparing for situations ahead of time. I get too frustrated and forget to stop & think…how can I go into this situation and keep them engaged and use something interesting to keep them out of trouble. The Yosemite example is great.

    I really am so proud of myself and the kids when I think of setting the stage for what is to come and helping them to understand how to handle situations. Sometimes it is easy to forget that they have yet to learn so many things!

    Like

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