With each year I get more use to the idea that I’m a mother. This year I feel I’ve eased into the role quite comfortably and securely. I’ve also realized that the best thing for me to do on Mother’s Day is to work in the garden undisturbed and that’s what D has given me the last two years in a row.
By coincidence I worked on the same exact area of our house that I worked on last year. The side median, that faces Calvert Street Elementary, was once covered in weeds knee high. Last Mother’s Day I weeded and planted the grasses and Myporoum. This year I went back out there to weed and it hit me that it’s been a year. How this spot in our house really has grown and taken root.
When the sun starts to fall the grasses take on a whole look of their own. They are best observed from our neighbor’s house a block east of our house. They look like waves of gold. After my hard work today I wanted to photograph them in their glory. I’m proud of this spot. D wanted to photograph P and me with the grasses to show just where we all are in our growth and in this point in time.
Besides giving me undisturbed garden time, D got me a huge diamond ring…..
…kind of as a gag gift as the ring is connected to a coffee cup. He never gave me an engagement ring and I was never formally proposed to. We always sort of knew we’d get married. When I got pregnant we got married two weeks after finding out and planned to do a real church wedding on our one year anniversary. Now, the plan is to do a church wedding on our 10 year anniversary.
The thing about a giant rock of an engagement ring is that I’d never wear it. I garden and play with my kid and cook and play with paints. There is no way I’d keep a ring intact with all that manual labor. So this ring, although it’s a gag, it’s also perfect. I only wear it when drinking coffee and it really hit home that D loves me and wishes we could go back to the start. That melts my heart.
P made me a card this year. And I couldn’t help telling her all day long that it was thanks to her that I get to celebrate Mother’s Day. I guess it’s really thanks to D….I love you both so much. Too much to put into words!
